Communication-Key to unlock doors of your partner’s soul

India: Communication is a key factor in strengthening any relationship. It is the most important factor to throw out all the barriers in all kinds of relationships. Communication has the power to turn the tables in a relationship. It is a crucial way to clear all the misunderstandings and build a trustworthy scenario in all kinds of relationships. Whether it is a personal, professional, or social relationship, the art of communication heightens the lifespan of the relationship.

The same formula is the best weapon in love life. A healthy communication is a secret of a healthy relationship. If you fail to communicate enough with your partner, it could become the reason for turning your life in a negative direction. It not only sours the relationship but also creates a distance among them. Lack of communication is like a hammer that can break your bonding.

In a relationship, one should communicate freely. He/She must deliver all the choices to his/her while communicating. Communication is not only about sharing your daily events but is about sharing your dreams, goals, passion, and soul. It is about expressing feelings and sharing all the expectations in a relationship.

This can be also taken as an opportunity to deliver all the choices. One should not wait for his/her partner to read the mind and act accordingly. One must speak up about what measures should be taken to develop a mutual understanding with the partner. The thought of ‘My partner should know my feelings without my expression’ kind of mentality must be dropped. One must act realistically for a realistic outcome in a relationship. Both partners are responsible for the sustainability of a relationship. There must be equal support and sacrifice from both sides.

Additionally, this provides an opportunity to know each other. Sharing your dreams, not with the world, with your partner makes him/her special. And they might love to act as a backbone in the journey. Honest and open communication helps in building a bond that allows us to stick together through all the ups and downs of our lives. These kinds of practices enhance the trust in a relationship and ultimately establish eternal love among the lovers.

But we should know… What to talk about? Where to talk? How to talk? When to talk? The following points should kept in mind while with your partner.

•  Avoid pointing out those unwanted things, which were your past and could work as a teaser. Subjects your partners don’t like talking about and discussing avoid bringing those matters into any arguments.
•  You should know the nature of the subject. When you know the nature of the subject, you will know the context in which it needs to be discussed. This gives the idea of the things either to be discussed in public or in private and whether to make other people part of it or not.
•  No matter how disappointed you are, always mind your tone and stick to the point of discussion. Accept and apologize if your partner is pointing to your mistakes. When you can accept it, you develop realization and fix all the drawbacks that are affecting the relationship.
• If you are hurt and stressed, do not approach for discussion. Calm down and collect your mind before you begin. Because anger never brings the solution. A heated mind will lead to heated discussion, which might be harmful to the relationship.

Apart from the above-mentioned points, always communicate to resolve and when you feel communication is about to turn into an argument then escape talking at that moment. Silence is the best way to deliver your sentiments. And if you are already into an argument with your partner then do not drag the conversation into another way and jump to another topic. If you stretch the issue and try to tie it to other objects it may become brutal. Remember words are stronger than weapons.

Whenever a conflict takes place people start saying their point of view rather than listening. And this should be avoided. Before imposing your ideas upon other people, there must be a platform for opening up all the thoughts moving in the mind. One should develop the habit of listening to all the perspectives of your partner over an issue rather than just talking against them. We should always be open-minded in understanding others and give enough time to speak and then take the turn with clarity.

Additionally, there is a big difference between discussion and arguments. Everyone has their own opinion and putting a point of view elegantly on any subject as per understanding is the right way of communication. Diligently listening to your partner and responding properly will increase the trust and will bring you closer.

Always communicate to win the heart of your partner because you will never be rewarded by any if you win the debate. Sometimes praising and being thankful for small things works more than enough to enhance the bonding. Accepting your mistakes and being sorry for your faults is very important in any relationship.

Similarly, life always moves on and so we need to. Instead of accumulating a painful past, we should collect beautiful memories, and this could only happen when we learn to forgive and avoid repeating the rotten mistakes made earlier.

Trust is the byproduct of love, which makes the bonding stronger and more transparent we get with our partner. Share your feelings and discuss your emotions. Love is not only being present in one place with your partner but being fully devoted to the partner. You must soulfully connect with your partner. Communication is the key to unlocking the doors to the soul. And spending some quality time with your partner improves the quality of your relationship.

Take time from your busy schedule to spend a good amount of time with your partner and show your interest in knowing about his/her likes-dislikes, passions, hobbies & etc. But never dug into the past or that topic which he/she is avoiding to talk about. When you give importance to your partner and start respecting his/her words, when you will stop hiding the truth and keep involving your partner in the major decisions of your life, when hesitation of misunderstanding each other finishes and you will learn to apologize on your mistakes, that day the trust will be built and hurdles of miscommunication will be crossed. You will feel your life flowing positively with cheerfulness and things are getting better day by day.

In a nutshell, you should understand that it does not take huge steps to fix a relationship. But the tiny contributions of both the people for a happy relationship. It’s not a bunch of secrets that will save your relationship, but soulful communication will save it for sure. Despite finding reasons not to talk when you are angry, remember all the sacrifices that the person has made to stay with you, and find a reason to break the ice and add beautiful memories for beginning a new chapter of life.

(Ankit Raj is an Indian author, speaker & blogger, who debuted into the world of Literature with his corporate-based book, ‘A Truth of 9 to 5 Job.’)